Whether you’re single, dating, or in a serious relationships, these are the 5 qualities you need to look for, the ones that tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that your partner is the one and this is it.

1. He/She loves your good qualities and accepts and embraces the bad without making you feel guilty for having flaws

You don’t need to hide your true self and put on a front in order to be what you think he/she wants. You can share your true self and be vulnerable and feel safe doing so, and bring you two even closer.

2. He/She is there for you when you need them, even if it’s inconvenient

A partnership will sometimes require sacrifice and compromise. A partner who will be there for you when you need them will be your partner in whatever happens and will weather the storm with you, even though they might prefer to stay in the sunshine.

3. He/She considers you when making decisions, both big and small

A relationship is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Factoring you in shows that they respects you, that they want to create a life with you, not simply envelope you in his world. Our worlds can be comfortable, it’s not always easy taking someone else into account, factoring in their wants and needs and preferences, but that’s what a relationship is.

4. He/She is growth-oriented

No one is perfect, we all have flaws. And these flaws aren’t black and white- usually, a person’s greatest strength is a hint to their greatest weakness. A growth-oriented partner will want to strengthen their character and work on it. A partner who isn’t growth-oriented will say you're the problem and this is the way they are and you need to deal with it.

5. He/She shares common beliefs and values

This one seems so obvious yet it’s so often overlooked. If your partner is going to be your life partner, you have to make sure you both are on the same page when it comes to issues that matter. And if you aren’t on the same page, then make sure your partner respects where you stand (and vice versa) and that you both are willing to work together to reach a mutually fulfilling middle ground. This can refer to religion, core values, lifestyle preferences, where you want to live, whether you want to have children.

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